Why am I giving you this background you ask? Well, I went shopping today and while I was on the bus coming home, the song 'Beat It' by JLS came onto my iPod. Now, I really like this song. The melody really suits the music and the music, while extremely simple, gets into my bones and I need to move. But this time, I really heard the lyrics. Wow. Guilt trip.
Damn
The Doctor's just finished telling me there’s no time
Losing you could be the end of me and that I
Should do the things that I wanna do how could I
Without you without you ooh ooh
Cos you’re the only one I let in
Tell me how to stop this feeling spreading
I’m hoping somehow that you know ooh ooh
Lets just get back together
We should’ve never broke up
They’re telling me
That my heart won't beat again
We should have stayed together
Cos when you left me it stopped
They’re telling me
That my heart won't beat again
Wont beat again
It's killing me
If I died
Yeah would you come to my funeral would you cry
Would you feel some regret that we didn’t try
Or would you fall apart the same as I
And would it always haunt you baby
That you missed your chance to save me
Cos you know it's not too late
I need you back in my arms
I need love CPR
Cos its getting so cold ooh
I need you back again
Or else Ill never mend
And girl if I go I go I go I go
*I've taken out the chorus bits*
So, if there is an anthem for emotional DV it would be this one.
Guilt is never a good basis for a relationship, but it's frightening how common this is. I would suggest that a fairly high proportion of women have been in this situation at some point, to varying degrees. I had a high school boyfriend like this - luckily I had a supportive family who helped me break away, but not everyone's that fortunate.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that you did. We should never allow ourselves to put ourselves in this position. So now I'm kinda guilty for liking this song.
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